Shay Williams AKA Shay Your Date Diva


Empowering Women and Teens to Experience Greater
Self-Love And Attain Healthy Love Relationships.

Company: Shay Date Guide, LLC
Location: Atlanta, Georgia
Website: www.lovein30days.com

Biography

Shay Williams (Atlanta, Georgia) also known as Shay Your Date Diva to her fans is a writer, speaker and coach who is passionate about helping to empower women of all ages to not settle for less than the love experience they deserve. Williams “expertise” in dating and relationships began as a newly divorced woman experiencing every challenge one could encounter as a single mom in the dating world. Her lack of knowledge caused her to push men away and consistently attract painful relationships. After one heart break after another, she decided to go on a journey to uncover the secrets of understanding men, the art of dating and what it takes to attract the right man to you and win his heart no matter who he is or what a woman looks like.

This research paid off because after launching her experiment of dating over 100 men with in 9 months, reading over 50 relationship books and interviewing hundreds of men, women and couples, Shay Your Date Diva discovered that there are common patterns in male -female relationship that either lead to a happy, healthy relationship or a relationship of pain. She also discovered that there were common natural behaviors women did that either turned men off or turned men on and made him want to love, cherish and honor that woman.

Williams recognized that she had a natural gift for speaking to large groups of people and writing. Shay used her research results and understanding of men to produce two books as a guide to dating and relationship: “Mama D.I.V.A Don’t Get Played!” and “D.I.V.A Don’t Get Played!" – both no nonsense, laugh out loud, dating and relationship guides for single mothers and single women dating.

Shay Your Date Diva uses her tremendous knowledge and passion for seeing women receive the love they deserve by offering relationship advice to women all over the world through her radio and television interviews as well as her growing youtube channel that features over 100 videos sharing her dating experience and expertise. Her show, books, blog articles and interviews offers single mothers and single women dating, relationship advice that is proven to work.

Shay Williams believes that she has found a love that she calls “magic” and a love that not many women have ever experience. This love is so powerful that she desires to help more women share this experience by attracting the man of their dreams without having to wait a life time in order to do it. When she is not saving hearts and teaching women what behavior patterns work best when attracting men, Williams enjoys playing golf, dancing, and reading. The mother of two lives by the words that inspire her success: “Love is passion. Obsession. Someone you can't live without. Someone you fall head over heels for. Find someone you can love like crazy, and who will love you the same way back. Listen to your heart. No sense in life without this. To make the journey without falling deeply in love, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try, because if you haven't tried, then you haven't lived.
-Meet Joe Black Movie"


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Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com

Role Reversal: An Article I Found on Single DAD’s Dating

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com


After doing all of this writing on single moms who date, I thought it would be interesting to have a look at what’s out there about dating single dads. As mothers, we’re likely to be attracted to other single parents since it’s not only something that we have in common, but we’re more comfortable dealing with a man who we know for sure won’t freak out about the fact that you are a mother.

After reading this article on Canoe.com, it made me feel good to know that single dads do go through something similar. It was a nice reminder that not all men who leave their baby-mama’s are bad news or deadbeats and that in fact, there are a lot of great men out there who cherish their time with their kids and are having the same trouble looking for unconditional love that women are. It was quite endearing reading the views of single dads who are trying to balance work, kids and dating.

The article gives similar advice to single dads that I do to my single DIVAS in my book, The Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days. It covers the importance of not bringing everyone you date around your children and to be very cautious as to who you do introduce to them and also explains that bringing a constant string of dates around will further plant the seed that the people you care about always leave which is especially damaging since children have a tendency of feeling that way because of the divorce in the first place.

It was also pretty funny to read the perspective of the single dads who all mentioned that while being a single dad makes it hard to find the time to date; it actually makes it really easy for them to get dates because being a dad seems to be some kind of a ‘chick magnet’! How true is that?? LOL Seeing a man with his child can make even the hardest woman melt to a puddle of goo!

It also mentioned that there are women out there—single moms included—who aren’t too big on the idea of raising someone else’s kids just as there are men who aren’t up for it. I can relate. A man may find you more appealing because of all the qualities that you possess thanks to being a mother, but at the same time; finding the patience to deal with issues concerning kids that are not their own can be hard.

All in all it was a great article with good tips for single dads who are dating or for the women who are involved with a single dad.

I Should Have Gotten off AskMen.com While I Was Ahead

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com

After singing the praises of AskMen.com for their great article on dating single moms; I came across their advice for ‘scoring a divorcee’. It’s a part of something they call the ‘Players Guide’—as if being a lying ass is anything to be proud of—and goes on to explain how to basically wine and dine her in order to reap the benefits of screwing a woman who just came out of a potentially boring or controlled marriage!

The article basically portrays divorcees as experienced women who are so starved for attention that they border on desperate and somewhat easy! Then the writer refers to us as ‘minivan-driving, coupon clippers’ who will basically be won over easily if a man spends a few more bucks and shows us what the ‘high life’ feels like! It even goes as far as to advise men to be spontaneous and show her a good time that is the opposite of marriage so that you can convince her that single life is better so that he can really score big.

As a woman who has made all kinds of mistakes in dating, I guess I really can’t do too much judging here, but I can tell you that with some of the jerks, I have a better understanding of where they were getting their dating tips and what may have actually made them jerks! LOL

There was actually an entire list of different advice articles for ‘Players’ and you need to sign up and become a member of the ‘Players Guide’ in order to read the entire piece. Stuff like: Juggling Multiple Women, How to Score Two Women in One Day and my personal favorite, Sleeping With Cougars!

Ladies, I think that by finding these articles I may have discovered the answer to the question that women have been asking for centuries—why are men such jerks?? Now I know why; because these articles are out there telling them that this is the way to behave! Whew—here we were starting to wonder if it was just us.

I’m not knocking all of the content on the site because as mentioned earlier; they did offer some very helpful advice and made some excellent points about dating single moms. For the most part, their love advice seems on track; it’s the ‘Player’s Guide’ that leaves much to be desired. And I pity any man who thinks that he’ll get anything/anyone of quality with those moves. LOL

Letting Go Really Is Like Rehabbing An Addiction

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com



I’ve touched on the subject of breaking up often because it does have such a big impact on us; not just when we’re going through the break up but even for a long time afterwards. When you’ve gotten used to having someone in your life, whether things were good or bad, its hell facing your life without them. Even when you know deep down that you’re better off without him, you still crave contact with him and miss him in a way that can only be compared to an addiction—deep down you know it’s wrong, but you can’t seem to help yourself.

I’ve got a few lists on the go of songs that really resonate with people when they’re going through a break up and the one that stands out in my mind the most is ‘Rehab’ by Rihanna. The words can pierce into the heart of anyone whose ever been in love and had to deal with letting go of their ‘habit’. It’s not really your typical ballad or sad song, but the words can definitely bring on the tears.

There is no video to the song, but I found one on YouTube that a fan created that includes the lyrics. Watch at and see what it does for you. It’s a great song.

Let me know your take on it and how it made you feel. Did it resonate with something you’ve been through? Did it make you cry? I’d love to hear from all you Divas!

Why Being a Mother Makes You More Attractive to Men

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com


It’s true that there are men who run the other way when they see a single mom because they simply don’t want to have to deal with kids, but did you know that more men are likely to be attracted to a single mother?

When a man sees a wonderful woman with her child(ren) or listens to her speak of them, he instinctively feels drawn to her because men were made to pair up with women who would be good mother, so they are naturally attracted to those women that seem as if they would be a good mother to their children. Another reason that men are attracted to women with children is because they see them as nurturing and loving which is especially important to a man who is looking to settle down. There is something about a woman with kids that makes her seem grounded and stable and strong—also very appealing qualities to a man.

There are also physical attributes that mothers have which other women don’t; sometimes it’s a rounder belly, a fuller chest or just all out more womanly and we know men love that! Women who have had babies radiate a certain sexuality that other women don’t. It’s not so much a physical thing as psychological because to have gotten pregnant, we’d of had to have sex obviously and since women were created to have babies and men to spread their seed so-to-speak; a woman who has kids has obviously lived up to her role successfully. Men don’t consciously think this of course, but just the same way that a man instinctively feels the need to protect and hunt, he also on a deep level is drawn to a someone who can successfully have his babies.

Now that I’ve covered all of the subconscious stuff, I can break it down into terms that we all can relate to. A man wants to feel like a man as much as possible and this includes everything from being with a woman who sings his praises and tells him how great he is, to competing with other men to be better than they are and win the affections of a woman who may be hard to get and offer a challenge. As a single mom; you have been there and done that. Some other man managed to make an honest woman of you and make you a mother to his children but then didn’t succeed as a partner, so automatically this causes a bell to ring in a man’s brain that tells him that he wants to win you over, take care of you and your child(ren) and prove to you, himself and everyone else that he is not just a better man than you last, but THE man. It sounds egotistical and pretty strange, but again, it is just the way men happen to be wired and they do this naturally without even realizing it.

Anyway my sexy DIVA, be proud of who you are and of your children and allow yourself to be loved. You deserve it.

10 Ways to Keep Things Hot In Your Marriage

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com

The big joke is that married people just don’t have sex because it stops the moment that they are pronounced man and wife. This joke probably stems from the statistics that show that people do have sex less frequently as time goes on in their marriage. Isn’t that sad? Sex is one of the most natural forms of pleasure and one of the best ways to connect with your partner and help express your love. It’s natural for things to feel more comfortable and familiar when you’ve been with the same person for awhile and it’s easy to let life’s stresses get in the way of sex sometimes, but just like all other aspects of your marriage; you need to work on it a little to keep it going strong. With the right attitude, you can even make it better as time goes on!

Here are 10 ways to keep things hot in your marriage:

1. Sleep naked! The feeling of skin on skin and just the heat of two bodies touching will get things stirring down below.
2. Try sex toys! If even just browsing them online together or just looking through a sex shop can be like foreplay; imagine what using them will do!
3. Surprise him! Leave a note in his briefcase telling him how hot he is or what you’re going to do with him when he gets home.
4. Share your fantasies! Most are probably better left as fantasies and not acted on, but share them just the same to get things going and remind him how sexual you are.
5. Get Down! A man loves good head and most complain that blowjobs are non-existent after marriage. Try waking him up with one so he starts his day right!
6. Be affectionate! Men need to feel loved too and by always remaining affectionate; you are making him feel great and always connected to you.
7. Wear lingerie! It doesn’t need to be anything to elaborate for him to love it. Wear sexy panties and bras and teddies under you clothes and around the house.
8. Learn to give an erotic massage! This doesn’t need any explanation, does it?
9. Go for a change of scenery! Take a road trip or just check into a local hotel for the night. Hotel sex is hot plus it gets you alone and away from the kids so you can let loose and be as loud and dirty as you want!
10. Always say yes to sex! It never fails; a man will always roll over and press up against you the second he and his penis wake up, regardless of whether you’ve had a late night or have some bad morning breath, but always saying no could lead to him feeling rejected and withdrawing if not straying. You may not be in the mood, but once things get going it always feels good and you’ll be glad you let it happen. The less sex you have, the less desire you feel, so its crucial to keep the momentum going in order to avoid losing it all together.

Never forget how important sex is to a marriage and always try to remember how good it feels and how good it is for you both. LOL

A Sad But True Story

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com

A friend of mine has gone through something that makes me realize how important a lot of what I preach in my book is. I constantly stress the importance of making sure that you really know someone before sleeping with them to bringing them home around your child(ren). I have even recommended that you go as far as having a background check done on your man and people often think that is being a little excessive and going overboard, but when you hear what happened to a woman I know; you will realize that I am right.

Imagine meeting a man that has all of the amazing qualities that you’ve been looking for, falling in love and moving in with him. You want to get married but he gives you a song and dance about how it will happen, just not yet and keeps putting it off and you keep accepting his excuses and find yourself still living with him eight years later! You don’t really understand why he won’t marry you, but you love him and stay because your love and hope keeps you there. One day you get a call that he has died in a car accident and you’re whole world comes crashing down. All of your hopes and dreams for the future wiped away because of an accident and you are left devastated. You can’t imagine feeling any worse when you stumble upon a whole bunch of information about him that you never know. The death of a relative seems to bring everyone out of the woodwork; from those paying their respects to those looking for anything of material value that the dead may have left behind. Imagine after all of that time and then dealing with the death of the man that you love and had spent almost a decade with; children that you never knew he had begin to surface! Five different children from three different mothers—none of which he ever mentioned and you never had any idea existed!

You really do believe that you know someone after eight years and some are even convinced after only a couple of months that they know their man inside out! Love can make us do crazy things, including compromising our own safety, sanity and even our lives because we let our hearts rule and tune out what our heads and loved ones are telling us.

My friend devoted the last eight years of her life to a man who wouldn’t marry her, only to find out that he had been lying from day one. She wanted marriage, but thought that she was doing the right thing by compromising since the timing wasn’t right yet for him. She spent eight years sleeping with the enemy so to speak! Imagine seeing that man’s face every night and every morning for eight years and finding out that he was pretty much a stranger to you because he had a whole other life that you never knew about and that he obviously went out of his way to keep hidden.

Take note of all of this and realize that I am not being paranoid and just too old fashion when I stress the importance of checking up on a man before things get too serious and of not living with someone before marriage. She lost the years that they were together, will lose a few more trying to deal with and move on from what she’s been through and have trouble loving again and all because she allowed it to happen. I hate to use her as an example, but she wants other women to learn from her mistakes.

Check out my Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days, for more on how to find out all about his past before committing to him as well as reasons why living together before marriage is a mistake.