The “Don’t Wanters”

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com

I can’t get over some of the men that are out there trying to pick up these days. The ones who talk down to women like we’re dirt or the ones who are so controlled by their mamas that you wonder if they will ever know how to form an opinion of their own! These are just a couple examples of “Don’t Wanters”.

It happens far too often that wonderful, sexy DIVAS like yourself end up falling for a man who is misleading you. Just when you manage to get away from one; you find yourself suckered in by another. Don’t beat yourself up over this, but do learn to spot the signs so that you can run far away from these ‘Don’t Wanters” when they come along with their sweet talk and promises of a better life that they can’t really give you.

Here are some signs to look out for and what they mean:

- He’s animated, fun, charming and looking to settle down, but has had numerous failed relationships and left a lot of women heartbroken along the way. He is the Commitment Phobic.

- He still lives with his mom, even though he makes a decent income and she if self-sufficient and doesn’t really need to be there. He is the Mama’s Boy.

- He is incredibly romantic, seems perfect on paper and really knows how to woo you—not a Player—a Romanticizer which is even worse! This man is always looking for the thrill of the fantasy relationship which means he will move on as soon as the thrill is gone.

- He thinks he is God’s gift to women and can’t stop talking about himself and what makes him so great; an answer for everything and a knows how to double-talk like a champ. He is the Player.

- He is ‘in between jobs’, his car is ‘in the shop’ and he has a lot of really big goals like to make it big in the music biz and always has ‘a lot of projects on the go’. He talks such a good game that you find yourself goin’ off to work while he ‘takes care of things’ from home while living off of you. He is the Pimp-Lazy Ass.

- He is too stylish, too neat, too sensitive and too good to be true because he is the Homosexual Dude! If it looks like a duck…

These are just a few of the types of men that you need to be weary of. You are a sexy DIVA who takes good care of her child(ren) and deserves to find unconditional and everlasting love. Check out my chapter on “Don’t Wanters” in Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days so that you can be clear on what to get close to and what to run the hell away from!