How A Man Really Feels When He’s Dumped

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com


Women are always seen as the more emotional sex and we often picture men to get through a break up completely fine with not an ounce of sadness or heartache, but the truth is that a break up is just as hard on a man as it is on a woman. Understanding how a man feels after having his heart broke can give you insight into why a man makes it hard for you to get close and why it’s so difficult for him to let his guard down and love again.

It turns out that several studies have shown that when it comes to the way men and women deal with a break up; men find it far more difficult and are more likely to suffer from depression and stress because of it. This has a lot to do with men having the tendency to keep things bottled up and opting to mask their pain with nights out drinking with the guys instead of doing what we women do: cry, talk it to death with friends and then cry some more. Women deal with the feelings and men prefer to ignore them in hopes that they will disappear.

When a guy gets together with his friends, it’s not likely that he’s gonna break down in tears and profess to his friends that he feels hurt and rejected and wishes she would come back. Men just don’t form bonds that intimate with anyone—except their girlfriends, so when you break it off; he’s not just lost his love but also the person he’d be mostly likely to confide in about the more ‘sensitive’ issues.

Another thing that men admit is that they don’t like starting over and having to get back in there and start from scratch. The excitement of all the new possibilities (i.e.; girls to have sex with) is fleeting because what they miss is the comfort and stability of the relationship. So we’re wrong when we envision a newly single guy to be out there playing the field and screwing a different woman every night, even if he claims that’s what he is or is going to do.

It’s also been shown that men take a lot longer to heal after a break up and find it incredibly difficult to move on. This is why it’s so important move slowly and make him pursue you as this is the only way that you can be really sure that he wants to be with you without a doubt. If you push him, come onto him and pursue him; you risk winding up with someone who is just settling for the ease of it all instead of a man who is completely sure that he wants to be with you and only you.

If you’re seeing a man who is having trouble letting his guard down, just try to be patient and remember that he may have been burned in the past just like you have and that he just needs to tread carefully until he feels certain that you aren’t going to do the same.